Posted by Sheshisown on May 18, 2008 at 16:10:01:
In Reply to: Re: Carbon Fiber BlowOut posted by Owl on May 18, 2008 at 05:56:27:
Hello Owl~
Your reasoning is rational as far as it goes. However, if we had to place a value on every decision thru a thorough knowledge of it's end, we would never decide much. I dont know about you, but many decisions I make are without certainty of the ends my choices will produce. Though none of these are as impacting as whether to marry or not. I hope I would make a value based, and faith filled, decision regarding marriage myself.
Of course you are absolutely warranted in your desire to know, especially in regards to a decision that will influence and change one's life to the extent that marriage does, or celibacy, for that matter.
I think it may be obvious that many people (just generally speaking) decide to marry for the benefits of not living alone, especially not growing old alone. Companionship is a huge factor, I think. As humans we age, and it becomes more difficult to bear one another~ unless you are bearing WITH another who bears WITH you as well. The issue of physical need is at least AS important as having one person who knows you intimately, to whom you may divulge yourself as you chose, and who *hopefully* understands/ who knows/ you best.
To flip a coin over the decision of whether to marry or not is not actually applicable for someone (on the other hand) who is blessedly bound by the Word of God not to be a fornicator. Who also, desires to give themselves to another person, to enhance the other person's life. Who may absolutely EXPECT a good end as long as the heart intention is godly, and obediance is followed to the Lord's revealed Word.
On a side note~ not chosing is the same as chosing in the case of celibacy or marriage (and many other decisions). Not to chose will cause my life to turn in a certain direction. Also, a definite choice will turn it in another direction. There is an end~ probably UNKNOWN for choice as well as for indecision.
Another aside~ The interesting converse between Alice and that funky feline is an invention by Charles Dodgeson, who BTW made the "choice" never to marry. He died in a household full of his relations~ his six unmarried sisters as well as nephews and nieces. He was taken with pnuemonia and died in a back bedroom suddenly. Rather a mysterious end for a man who was very wealthy and famous in his lifetime. I wonder if he had been married~ having one woman who was his lifemate~ if he would have died in this manner? God knows.
Celbacy is another matter all together~ one I will let people with more sense and singleness than me discourse on. So keep asking friend, there are wells of wisdom in the deposits laid here by Christ.
"The time has come,
" the Walrus said,
"To talk of many things:
Of shoes - and ships - and sealing wax -
Of cabbages - and kings -
And why the sea is boiling hot -
And whether pigs have wings."
For the sake of His name I pray you find His answers.
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bonnie